Should you tell someone to forget about a guy that she has been in love with for awhile, knowing that the guy does not share the same intentions, or would you feed your friends fantasies and give her hope and strength to make it through her days. Sigh. Why are guys so stupid! I wish she would wake up and realise he doesn't love her, he's just using her for his benefit, and she deserves so much better.
Guys out there, if you don't want some sort of relationship why keep texting at 2am in the morning and hang out 24/7 and why not make it clear so that the girl doesn't get some false hope of something more than a friendship. Or for the girls, refer to "He's just not that into you". I love the line where Alex goes "So trust me when I say if a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit, he genuinely doesn't give a shit. No exceptions". If only that was't every girls weakness. And most people don't see it as such til it's over, and then you get really mad.
I had this happen to me a few months ago too, and my first two weeks post realisation I went through some really depressing thoughts, it took two weeks, some hard clubbing to get past the fact. I like to think I'm over it though but i think i'm off love for some time now. I don't ever want to go through that heartache ever again, it was the first time that i was completely honest about these things with someone and it wasn't a exactly fairytale. I told my best friends this, and they all agreed that it was better to find out regardless of the outcome rather than waiting for that day that would never come. I agree.
I'm waiting for the anger to come, but I'm just not mad at him.
Apparently there are 5 stages of recovery post break up,
1. Denial
2. Anger/Resentment
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
I seem to have breezed through denial and anger, I've always accepted what happened, but that's just me, I will always try to move on from it, it'll just be another lesson to be filed under "Live, Love and Learn" I would much rather throw myself out there and get hurt rather than not experience life at all as said by Gigi quite aptly "I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You've think you won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are."
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